When
the war started, I was happy because my maths test was cancelled.
What interested me most, as a teenager, was sex, or it was more
talking about sex, dreaming about sex as the highest realisation
of love. But in 1992 everything changed and I realised that I
was living in a war, in which sex was used as part of a war strategy
to humiliate women and thereby cause the destruction of an ethnic
group! 20.000 women were systematically raped in Bosnia during
the war.
I lived 100 metres from the front line and was most afraid of
this kind of fight. Since then, rape and its consequences have
become an obsession for me: I read and followed everything that
was related to this topic. I still didn´t know why I did
this, or what I wanted to do with this.
When I gave birth to my child, that was a fruit of love, motherhood
– which triggered a whole set of emotions in me –
this shocked me completely. I asked myself, what emotional significance
does this have for a woman that has a child who was conceived
in hate. That was the moment I knew what I wanted from Grbavica
and I wrote it - between breast feeds. |